There are quite a few people who haven’t heard of pickup. However, everybody knows that pickup is solely boys’ prerogative. Why so? Well, the aim of pickup is a quick seduction. By no means love, only game, flirt and sex. So the question is the following: do pickup techniques for girls exist? Psychologists claim they do.
To understand how it is possible one should find out first how it all works. Actually, psychologists use the term ‘pickup’ for women in quotes, because training techniques for such psychological seminars are actually designed only for men.
Still, Elena Milovanova, Russian psychologist and instructor of psychological trainings for women is convinced that a woman is a ‘pickuper’ by nature! She must only recollect how to use natural skills, because everybody knows that according to laws of nature choosing a partner is a female task.
So the aim of a woman using pickup methods is totally different from that of a man. While man’s task is to seduce, woman’s task is to make him fall in love. That’s why all the techniques and psychological trainings are aimed at teaching girls how to choose the best partner. And then they learn how to make him fall in love and loose his mind.
Our modern world has created some rules, according to which a man makes the first step, says the first word, and makes first decision. Why should it be like that? Psychologists say: ‘Girls, make that first step, don’t be afraid to choose!’
Of course, there are some similarities between pickup for men and women. First and the most important principle for both genders is to improve yourself. While the aims are different, the path to them is similar. So a woman has to work on her self-confidence, charm, and belief system.
According to Elena Milovanova’s words, visiting a ‘pickup’ seminar, a woman will be taught how to best use her own appearance, manner, and behavior in order to show the man that it’s safe to approach her. In other words, a woman will be able to ‘advertise’ herself, but in a way that a man will think he is the initiator of acquaintance.
So females are able to study pickup techniques, however, they do it with different aim. Creating the right image, working on self-appraisal, perfect communication skills ‘ and use all this with the aim to find the best man ‘ these are the tasks for girls! And you don’t have to learn how to become a psychologist for acquiring all those skills!